I think the rewards for giving good service can often be in the satisfaction of a job well done too. And if you give of your best, someone usually notices (like the bridegroom) and something even better can come of it – promotion, good references, connections etc. I guess the tipping systems in these examples might encourage good teamwork and that’s a good thing too in the hospitality industry. Good on your girls and to you for encouraging them. We learn so much from those dodgy holiday jobs before we find ourselves in our eventual careers, mainly what to steer away from in my own experience! Thanks for joining in the conversations.

My two daughters have always taken on part-time bar work and waitressing jobs to support their student loans during their University years. There was an official tronc scheme in the Michelin 2 star restaurant that one daughter worked in last summer, but that has not been the norm.

In our experience the tips taken by waitresses and bar staff in pub/restaurants are usually split equally between all staff, kitchen brigade and front of house, including a share each for the landlord and landlady.

During a private function where daughter number 1 was responsible for waitressing at the top table of a wedding, the groom was delighted with her and gave her a £50 cash tip, significantly more than she was being paid for her shift! This was instantly whisked off and put into the communal pot to be divided x ways!

It would seem that the rewards for giving good service in this industry has to be a sense of pride in the service you personally offer, laying foundations for a glowing reference for future use, and keeping your job!