I wrote a post last week about not doing what we know to do. And I thought I’d write some more today about Ho’oponopono for those who may not be familiar with it at all. Thanks to Wikipedia for this definition:
Ho’oponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Similar forgiveness practices were performed on islands throughout the South Pacific, including Samoa, Tahiti and New Zealand. Traditionally Ho’oponopono is practiced by healing priests or kahuna lapaʻau among family members of a person who is physically ill. Modern versions are performed within the family by a family elder, or by the individual alone. Read more here.
I first read about Ho’oponopono in Zero Limits, a book by Joe Vitale and Dr Hew Len which I heartily recommend and if you are going to buy a copy, could I borrow it after you please as I’ve already paid my copy forward and I could always use another read! Thanks. One simply has to repeat this mantra:
- I’m sorry
- Please forgive me
- I love you
- Thank you
Why not try it now, repeating it over and over (slowly) for a few moments and see if it makes you feel any different. Perhaps with someone or something in mind, a situation you might want to heal perhaps, including yourself? Remember to practise the phrase so you can call it to mind instantly as I find it can be very useful in times of extreme stress, where perhaps you are waiting on a chair outside an interview room or to see the Bank Manager. Or before a family meeting, severe turbulence on a plane or when you find yourself suddenly in a sticky situation without warning and need something to grab onto.
I think there are two ways you might practise it ongoing if you feel, from a few goes, that Ho’oponopono might help with anything you’ve got going on in your life right now.
1. Yourself. Do you need to apologise to yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself or thank yourself for anything you’ve done, however big or small? For instance, that might be behaviours towards others or self, or from others to you. What about messes you have created in your own life, business, finances, relationships? Wherever there is something which is causing you stress, however small, try the four-phrase mantra and let me know how it goes. Shifts happen. Forgive yourself for having run up debts perhaps? Or your partner for doing the same? Or a failed business opportunity/business partner? I don’t think you can get this wrong; just pick any little thing and get going.
2. Others. For imagined slights and real hurts you’ve been carrying around. For mistakes, judgements, illnesses, burdens, duties, anything which weighs heavy. Put it down with a daily Ho’op practise and see if it doesn’t start to lessen the pain you’ve been choosing to keep alive. Make a list of every little thing you can think of which carries a charge and pick one small one and tell it I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you and see what happens. Experiment.
I like to hold a vision in my mind of someone or something as I am saying the mantra, and I say it in the spirit of forgiveness and healing but also because it makes me feel better to do it, and this allows changes to happen.
Ho’oponopono: Where Can I Learn More?
So here’s my tip – check out Joe Vitale’s book, read about Dr Hew Len and his work and that of Mormah Simeona before him. The book is called, enticingly: Zero Limits – The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace and More. Then follow @MabelKatz on Twitter and check out her website too (especially if Spanish is your mother tongue, as she works in both languages). Mabel’s got some very nice free resources teaching you how to do Ho’op, including her book The Easiest Way and stuff about Ho’op and money and Ho’op for children.
And If you think you are going to feel a bit silly doing the mantra, go and search Ho’oponopono on YouTube and enjoy all the free resources there including this one with Brad Yates which mixes EFT and Ho’oponopono :