Q39: What’s the Best Way to Avoid Compromising My Freedom?

Earlier this summer, my client was negotiating a Big Contract. This was going to be quite a commitment for her and involve her in working with a few sub-contractors too, but it was what we’d been talking about and the sort of income she had been desiring and taking steps towards and following up leads and going to meetings in order that she would manifest precisely that; a big chunk of work and cash. Her intentions became her reality. And next, her immediate fear was that the new juicy Big Contract would limit her freedom, that most precious of precious […]

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Q38: When Is Enough Enough?

Oh! I so agree with you. I know you and I both know when enough is enough. And we are both quite or very close to that place where we appreciate that we are enough, we have enough, and we know enough. Gentle Reader, my questioner is a consultant but she also does another couple of funky and interesting things on the side. She’s not my only consultant client and there’s often a somewhat tricky quandary that goes with being a consultant which my freelancer readers will also recognise. When we have a contract we are grateful to have it […]

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Q37: Why Do I Feel Bad That My Work Isn’t Hard?

“Why do I feel bad that my work isn’t either hard enough or sufficiently worthy or intellectual?” Self-employment feels too easy to my client; it’s all dropping into her lap. Hard work was hardwired into me at birth. And it is worthy, it really is. I ran my life and my accounting business according to the principles of hard work once upon a time* and guess what? It only works! But it isn’t The Way. It’s just one of the ways. When I am tired and not thinking straight and I want to get something done, I fall back on […]

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Doing What You Love or Wasting Your Time

My clients are my greatest teachers. Here are some of the invaluable lessons they have taught me this week and all before Wednesday coffee break. One of my mentors once taught me the expression “delay is increasingly expensive” and he was right. But expressions like that can just as easily be countered by other circumstances. I spoke to a woman I’ve known for four years who is starting to create a business she’s had in her heart for far longer. And although you could apply that phrase to these circumstances, I am not. I am just delighted that now seems […]

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On Becoming a Weirdo

I knew there was a song about being a weirdo and I could hum the tune, but I wasn’t sure about the lyrics and I’d forgotten that half of the weirdo thing is about being a creep (no) as well as a weirdo (yes) and I am surprised that some of the rest of the lyrics speak to me too. Great tune. Not going to leave me all day now. [What the hell am I doing here? I don’t belong here!] Let me explain the weirdo thing. After having spent the majority of the last ten years or more exploring my […]

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The Story of An Ideal Client

Take one woman who I have known for a while, perhaps as long as a decade. We already like and respect one another. I’ve met her in the flesh, ditto her other half. I follow her on social media and she me and we say lovely things to each other and about each other and we mean them. We enjoy each other’s content. We’ve wished each other a Happy Birthday for years now. She books a PWYW consultation, asking if I think I can help her with something off what she considers to be my normal beat. It isn’t but […]

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The Future of your Business: Podcast Ep 181

What is the future of your business? No, I have no idea either! Fresh from the ICF Conference in London, Nicola has some questions for me about the future of coaching as a business, the future for any sort of business and how much and to what extent do we need to be futurologists, is that even possible? Even Warren Buffett admits he cannot predict the future. We both agree on agility, creating the sort of business which is responsive to the changing needs of our clients and customers. And keeping an eye out for change and deciding whether you […]

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Q36: Why Do I Always Put My Own Self-Care Last?

Without you, your business is nothing. So your top priority always is looking after you because you are both your business’s finest asset and its worst liability. When anything threatens your health and well-being, you cannot work and your income dries up or your business comes under threat in other ways. This is called self-care, and because we are so poor at prioritising it we need to think of it as Extreme or Radical. We need always to focus on it first and foremost and what we tend to do is leave it to last. If there are a few […]

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Q35: How Can I Work Better with My Husband?

“What are your best tips for better working with my business partner who is also my husband, especially when we don’t see eye to eye?” My client co-owns a business with her husband in which they both work. She feels the division of labour is unfair and resentment builds up and then explodes. Her partner doesn’t like his list of jobs increasing. He doesn’t really see the problem and is reluctant to talk about it. She feels misunderstood especially in the amount of her own workload and commitment to the business. The burden falls on her for dealing with people, […]

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Q34: Is It OK to Talk Openly About My Spirituality?

“People will think I’m a whack job!” For the longest time, I was a bit too circumspect about this, fearing the whack job diagnosis myself. And I know some of my friends and family and colleagues and clients do not agree with a lot of my own spiritual and esoteric beliefs. If anything, that just serves to strengthen them. I know what’s true for me. Also, my beliefs are visceral or as my friend, Susie-From-Manchester would say “I just knowed it, Miss.” Other people spouting on about theirs, where we are not in agreement, just makes mine strengthen. It’s like […]

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