Today my 38th guest blogger is Honey Lansdowne who is another virtual pal the Blogfest has brought into my life. I too am looking forward to reading her story about how to show up as your authentic self in life and business:
I can share with you how to show up as your authentic self in life and business because I do it! Sometimes we don’t connect the dots between ourselves and our businesses but I think it’s catching on, because I am seeing a lot of business people talking about mindset.
I’ve been following Judith Morgan’s Blogfest with interest because I love reading blogs for starters (nearly as much as I love writing them!) but more than that, I love hearing people’s stories. These blogs are really people’s business stories and it all ties in with her new book called Your Biz Your Way which is about doing YOUR business YOUR way. And you can find Judith’s blog here. Now I’m all about living life your way so this sits well with me!
Treat this like this is your life
I remember someone saying to me in my corporate job ‘Treat this like it was your business’. That excited me so much because even in a big corporation there were people that realised if you give people trust and ownership, they will be more inspired and driven. That little comment made a great big difference to my teams’ results. It was me being my authentic self in that role.
I think that ‘Treat this like this is your business’ could translate more broadly into ‘Treat this like this is your life’ and that is something I certainly live by. So many people wait to be ‘done to’ but often you have to make your life happen on purpose. You have more power as your authentic self.
Got no money; make some. Got no friends; find some. Hate your job? The list goes on. You can change most things in your life. If you want to. Believing this is the first step. The opportunities are abundant in 2018 and we are truly blessed.
This can be a bit of a mindset shift and in my therapy business I help a lot of people with mindset shifts. But get your head in the game and this really is YOUR LIFE and you will feel like you have more options. More power and therefore more happiness.
My life fundamentals
I have some fundamentals that I live my life as my authentic self and things are not much different in my business. Let me share these with you now:
Use energy wisely
I am fully aware of my energy levels. When they are high I harness them and flourish and when they are low, I replenish. I try to never go overdrawn because when I am depleted I cannot give my best self to life, family, friends and clients.
I don’t waste my energy on arguments, gossip, comparison or anything that brings negative energy into my ‘field’.
I replenish mostly in nature, walking and being around trees or the sea.
It is said that children laugh around 300 times a day and adults just 17. I look for laughter at every opportunity because it feels good. And bring laughter into my therapy practice because it’s as excellent way to access the unconscious and change how something feels.
Do things that bring you joy
I know myself well. I could write an exact list right now of things that bring me joy. If I ever feel myself creeping away from joy I act quick and get it back. This is a life skill in my view.
Things that bring you joy don’t have to be big or expensive, they just need to bring you joy.
In my therapy business I get joy from working at a deep level with clients. I help them find themselves and find their own joy too.
When I travel I really go for it. Get involved in the culture, see all there is to see, eat the local food, go where the locals go and find out about their cultures and traditions.
I explore in my business too. Mostly training in new therapies because I seek out the best trainers worldwide. But in a broader sense trying new things with clients to best help them.
I don’t do gimmicks, I don’t endorse people I don’t trust or believe in and I always bring my true self to the table/day/session. These criteria are true to authentic self. I love values because they form our identity and it’s a big piece of the work I do in my signature package (if you are curious about what that is please do ask me). When we align to our true values people get the best of us and it’s funny how the right things come to us.
I see being my authentic self as a hugely important part of being a therapist. My energy will flow in a way that shows people my intentions are to help them the best I can. Trust and rapport are part of a good hypnosis session.
If I give my true self, it creates an energetic circuit where my client can be open about what they want to change and achieve the best possible results.
If you are a Facebook friend of mine you will know that I share knowledge freely. I believe if we all share knowledge, the world is a better place because we all know more. It’s also a great chance for discussion.
I share knowledge freely as a therapist. I don’t hold things back for the next session, if I think it benefits the client, I share it or use it there and then. Best outcomes are my mission!
Focus on your strengths
No one asks Tiger Woods to excel at basketball do they? He is really good at golf so he plays that, wins, feels great, earns good money and thrills his fans. Why on earth would he focus on other sports that he isn’t good at? Unless he wanted to learn new things or he enjoyed doing them of course.
We spend too much time thinking about the things we aren’t good at when I believe we should nurture and grow the things we are good at. I also believe we all have a gift/gifts. You’ve just got to find yours.
Know WHO you are, not WHAT you are
I often ask clients ‘Who are you’? And they answer with things like mum, wife, dad, husband, sister, brother, lawyer, teacher, entrepreneur, fitness addict or whatever. Usually a role, job or hobby.
And then we do what I call ‘work of the self’, where we uncover the parts of them they may have overlooked or forgotten. When we uncover their real ‘who’ it feels exciting. Like a new toy to be played with.
Just so you know, I am an explorer.
Everything flows when you are your authentic self
This was a very easy post to write. It flowed from the heart and isn’t it great how easy things are when we are just our true selves. I believe when we live our truth, we do our best work.
Lovely to meet you “properly” at last!
In our world, much is spoken about authenticity but few get it across as clearly as you. I appreciate the energy with which you do that, it’s infectious. It is great to have found another twin soul who loves to read and write blogs and you are right when you say that the stories this Blogfest has brought forward have been moving, inspiring and thought-provoking; yours is no exception. Thank you.
It was almost impossible to choose but I think your last two are my favourites. I definitely agree about flow, but the thing about who you are not what you are is one of those questions which comes up in life a lot. I do what the politicians do. When someone asks me what I do, I answer the question I imagine they had asked instead, who I am. And I encourage my clients to do the same.
Honestly, it’s just a social nicety, isn’t it? And even if you are on fire with what you do, it tells very little about the entirety of who you are, which is a much bigger, better, more important and far more interesting question. How wonderful of you to include that in your list of fundamentals.
I keep meaning to write a manifesto, a list of fundamentals would work as well, if not better for me. I shall definitely be including the JM version of that in mine, thanks to you.