How do feel about feedback, love it or hate it? I’m not a fan. I know that’s poor of me. I know that feedback is the breakfast of champions, I’m just not very robust about it. If you say to me “can I offer you some feedback?”, unless you are a client the answer is likely to be Non Merci! Today’s client challenge of the week is all about feedback. Nicola’s received some unsolicited feedback from a trusted source and it made her a bit tetchy. She confessed she sees it as an opportunity to manage her own emotions, but […]
“I’m so grateful and appreciative of you and your support as part of this group. You’ve helped me get into a position that I never expected to be in. Your level of focus, commitment and passion is remarkable. You have a natural warmth without being fluffy (SO my kind of woman!) and you are so easy to trust and take advice from. I tend to be a ‘I know best!’ type person with a lot of my friends and co-workers so it always surprises me how naturally I take on-board things you say. I always feel supported with you at […]
I had rather a good day on Tuesday where I got to help three ideal clients on Skype, which is my preferred way. And here’s another splendid testimonial which flooded in after the call: “Thanks so much for your help yesterday – went away feeling much more excited and did loads of writing. I bounced away from our call and spent the next several hours excitedly finishing a chapter of my book.” Now, that may not seem all that much to you but here’s what it says to me. Firstly, it’s from a bloke who is apt to remind me at […]
As a Creator, I think of myself as someone who doesn’t much care for feedback. I don’t really ask other people what they think of my ideas, I just crack on. But I don’t mind telling you its been lonely and testing at times over the last 18 months while I withdrew from work and took a long, long breather. Then came the time when it was obvious I would re-emerge without really knowing how I wanted to be with my clients again. Except 100% authentically, which is always a brave and somewhat risky position to adopt and which also […]
When I was going through my first career change from accountant to coach, my elders encouraged me to ask ten people who knew me really well to send me a description of myself in three words. The name of the game here is to help you come to know your authentic self as it is appreciated by those around you, so that you can market to those strengths. One of my favourites at the time, from someone who had known me as a friend for at least two decades, was razor sharp and blunt. Witty, well written and spot on. […]
The best and most efficient way for me to do less is to learn to say No more. This has been a challenge for me for untold decades, and I have written before that the main person to whom I learn to say No is myself. For I think I want to do all the things, or most of the things, I commit to and its only the sheer amount of them which makes some of them feel burdensome.