I’ve been with clients all day today and this has been the recurring theme. When’s the right time to sit back and wait and allow and take a light yin approach and when is a more forthright pushing yang energy the most appropriate option?
Whenever I post something on Facebook about receiving, allowing and relaxing so that something you want may manifest, I am swamped with blokey energy comments and feedback (which may come from both men and women) saying that nothing comes to those to sit and wait, rather it comes to those who get up off their ***** and do some heavy lifting, and I agree. But not 100%.
I’ve been experimenting with this in my life for some time now and I like a nice scientific experiment based on if I do X then Y follows. And I know that when I work hard I get great results. I push on through any task which needs doing and I have something to show for it at the end. But at some personal cost.
I also know that when I take a week off or skive off to go to the cinema in the afternoon, great things manifest in my absence and I am reminded that I am not totally in control of what’s going on round here. Not all the time, anyhow.
So what’s the best way to advise clients when I notice myself getting shirty at their lack of application or resisting their hard-driving approach because, of course, it can go either way? Either it’s all hammer and hell-for-leather or all floaty and fairylike when what we want is some balance.
It can depend on the task. If you have to get something done by a certain deadline, you want to pick driving, blokey, deadline-driven, accountability-based yang. If you want something magical and miraculous, you want to adopt some step-away-from-the-machine yin. Both work; I’ve proved that beyond all reasonable doubt now to my own satisfaction. But one approach is more appropriate for certain tasks than the other.
Do your own experiments, starting with an audit. How happy are you with your current circumstances and what predominant energy have you been using to achieve that? How’s it working for you? Why not look for ways to experiment with the both sorts of energy, sometimes a little shove, sometimes a little space and then let’s compare notes and see what happens.
All push makes Jack a dull boy and all allow makes Jill an under-achiever. The choice is ours. We want to be flexible and try a little bit of both. After all, these seemingly opposite and contrary forces are interconnected and interdependent in the natural world. Try a little of the opposite to the one you normally use and prepare to be amazed.